Positive Feedback List
In the next few months we will be moving house probably to a different area. We have to find a new home and workshop for husband Jonny, as his current workshop (where he’s been for past 40 years!) is going to be sold.
This looming upheaval in our lives is creating a great deal of uncertainty and fear. There is part of me that wants to put my head in the sand and hope this all goes away, and we magically move into a new comfortable home without the stress involved.
The current insecurity I’m feeling triggers some of my unhelpful traits, particularly self-doubt, thinking that I’m not good enough on all levels of my life.
When this happens, I turn to my well-being tool box and find something pertinent that helps to lift my spirits.
I manage to find a way forward with my tools to create a more positive outlook for myself.
Last week I read parts of my book, ‘Wearing Red’ to remind me of my courage and tenacity in healing myself from the childhood sexual abuse that I experienced. Showing me how capable I am and how far I’ve come.
This week I’ve been focusing on my Positive Feedback list which has given me a ‘feel good’ boost and reminded me of my strengths and accomplishments.
So, I suggest that if you’re anything like me and you need a mind tonic from time to time, create a list of positive feedback from others. The good things that people have said about you, at different stages of your life.
When you’re feeling powerless, look at this list to remind yourself that you are appreciated. A way of saying ‘Yes that’s me they’re talking about.’ Fist pump time.
Here are some examples of mine that I love reading to myself when my spirits need lifting:
“Eva does her work with care, thought and the utmost integrity. She won’t let you off the hook, but she’s there with you every step of the way, so that it’s difficult to move any way but forward. Standing still with Eva just isn’t an option. She is one of the most intuitive people I’ve worked with and helps others see the possibilities they either hadn’t conceived or didn’t want to confront”
( HR Consultant M&S)
“Working with you on the ‘Journey to Ithaca’ programme has changed my life. You are a warm, caring and sensitive facilitator – handling every situation with sensitivity, drawing things out of all of us in a gentle and subtle way. All the threads of the journey wove so beautifully together toward the final celebration, it was cleverly and expertly crafted. Thanks again for a life changing process”
( Director of Choirs, Southampton)
“After working with Eva, I am left holding her in the highest of regard and esteem. Her pitch, balance and diplomacy are spot on. What courage she has, what insight, what emotional intelligence she displays in her work and her being. She is a very powerful woman – a leader, born of a special tribe- of those who know and dare to explore the deepest secrets of who we really are and then bring them into being as wisdom for others to share and wonder upon. I am inspired by her work”
( Organisational Development Manager, Glaxo Wellcome UK)
“If I say I did not know what I could be until I worked with Eva, I would not be exaggerating. Eva has encouraged me to articulate my passions and to take responsibility for bringing them to life. My expectations of the programme were far exceeded and my life wonderfully enriched. Eva Roshan is an extraordinary woman and now I believe I am one too!”
(Kate T, Writer)
My positive feedback comments are mainly from my career as a workshop facilitator, creative life coach and personal/organisational development consultant.
You can create your list from any part of your life when you have received compliments about yourself, or references you’ve been given about your accomplishments of whatever sort.
If you can’t remember any positive feedback, ask some friends or people you trust to write the things they appreciate about you and then keep the record.
When you’re feeling low, or ‘less than’ or full of self-doubt, read your ‘Positive Feedback List.’ Remind yourself just how well you’ve done so far. This can be like swallowing a tonic that boosts your vitality and makes you smile with pleasure.
After reading my list, I’m now feeling ready to face the world again and meet the forthcoming challenges with confidence.
Be proud of the positive comments that people have given you. Reassure yourself that you are indeed an extremely capable person, who still has these resources and qualities within you. That strength, energy, courage, spirit, passion, commitment, perseverance and persistence.
This is a form of self-nurture. And we can never have enough of that.
Eva Melissa Roshan
Author of ‘Wearing Red, One Woman’s Journey to Sanity.’
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